When I was first pregnant with triplets, one of my burning questions was, “what equipment do we need to feed three babies at once?” I noticed a product called the Baby Brezza, which is an automatic formula maker. I was fully committed to breastfeeding the triplets (and I did breastfeed for over a year), but I knew I’d probably have to supplement with formula. I thought the formula maker was a genius invention for multiples since we’d need many bottles of formula at the same time.
I seriously thought that each day would be filled with three crying babies and me frantically trying to get bottles of formula made in the midst of the chaotic crying. Anything that could shave off a few minutes during feedings sounded like a great invention. But the Baby Brezza is not cheap, and it seemed impossible to justify paying for more than one of them.
We ended up mixing a pitcher of formula in the morning and using that pitcher for the entire day. It worked beautifully. The pitcher cost $5. As for the screaming babies frantically waiting for their milk? That happened a lot less than I imagined. When the babies first came home they were on a synchronized 3-hour feeding schedule. If we wrote down the time their first feeding of the morning started, it was easy to predict when the next bottle would be due, and we could plan ahead to have the bottles ready around the 3-hour mark. That meant that even if the formula pitcher was low, we had enough time to make formula. We were hardly ever frantically trying to get formula mixed and lamenting the lack of an automatic formula maker.
our daily pitcher of formula
That’s not to say the automatic formula maker wouldn’t have been amazing. I know fellow moms of multiples who loved them. I’m just saying that I was falsely assuming that everything would be chaotic. I don’t think I’m alone in this fear. Many fellow moms of multiples have shared that they too think nothing will be predictable or manageable when it comes to caring for newborn multiples. This is the false multiples narrative at play! Honestly, when the babies were only drinking milk, all we had to do was stick to a consistent feeding schedule for all 3 babies and things were fairly predictable. Sure, the sleep deprivation wasn’t fun, but we had simple systems in place that made things manageable.
half of our bottle supply (yes, we had even more than this)
The automatic formula maker encapsulates the irrational fears we harbor about having multiples. We think life will be so out of control, we need to buy special equipment to somehow manage to make life halfway livable because we can’t spare an extra 5 minutes. We think that it’ll take us 15 minutes to make 3 bottles (5 minutes per bottle times three), when it probably takes less than a minute if we really timed things. We also forget there could be another way to address bulk bottle feedings. I actually timed how long it took me to make the pitcher of formula. It was a grand total of 4 minutes. These fears are not helped by the media or the general public when they hear multiples are on the way.
So here is the alternative story. We didn’t buy an expensive automatic formula maker and we were fine. Better than fine, actually. You are going to be OK! You will not be cursing the minutes as you frantically prepare bottles! You will figure out a system and you will make it work and everything will be fine! I wish someone had told me that when I was pregnant with the triplets.