Everyone has their pressure points as a mom. There are some things that I care about as a mom that you may or may not agree with. These things are important to me.
First and foremost, a happy mom makes a happy household. If mama ain’t happy, it’s going to be pretty near impossible for the household to be happy. SO… what makes this Type A mom of multiples happy?
- A clutter free home. Clutter makes me anxious. It makes me unable to concentrate. It stresses me out. I may have 5 kids, and that may mean I have a lot of kids gear, but I still have areas in the house where the kids can roam free because there isn’t clutter everywhere. Even the triplets’ nursery has a very free open carpeted area in the middle so they can play with the toys they choose without chaos. To achieve this clutter free home, I regularly get rid of stuff. The older kids declutter their room every change of seasons. I scan artwork, throw away papers daily and go through my closet seasonally. I throw things away in the hotspots of the house daily. It’s an active process, and it’s something that takes time and thought, but it’s worthwhile to me.
- A morning routine that includes teeth brushing for everyone, a change of clothes for everyone, and a shower for mom. The shower is more about my mental sanity than the side benefit of cleanliness. The shower gives me a second to relax. It doesn’t have to be long, but even 5 minutes just gives my muscles some time to unwind and I do so much better the rest of the day. I also care that the kids get out of their pajamas and have their teeth clean so they are ready for the day. The day may involve lounging around the house all day, but I still want them to physically acknowledge that the day has started and they have cared for themselves in some way.
- A planned healthy-ish meal for dinner. I meal plan religiously. I am anxious when I don’t know what we’re having for dinner. I want my kids to sit down to dinner as a family. I want them to have a good square meal before they go to bed, and to know that dinner is going to cap off their day with some family time. That means I meal plan for the week. Sometimes that plan is for takeout and sometimes that plan is to have spontaneity, but there is always some forethought to dinner.
- A clean home. I want my sink to be empty, I want my bathroom to be clean, I want the kids rooms to be picked up when they aren’t playing, and I want our living room to be in order after we’ve finished playing. The bathroom doesn’t have to be spotless, but it does get cleaned at least every other week (in an ideal world, more often, but truthfully, that doesn’t happen). I don’t need things to shine daily, but I do want a relatively clean home. It may not matter to others, and it may not seem worthwhile to others, but it matters to me. It makes me relax, it makes me able to focus and connect with my kids, and I’ll say it again– a happy mom is a happy household.
What are the things that help keep you sane at home? If you are pregnant, think about those things now, so that when you are in the thick of the first newborn days, you can make a few things your goal for the day. It can be very simple, like having your bed made or a cleared kitchen table. Just one thing accomplished that day can make a world of a difference in your ability to be happy the rest of the day!