Here is a running list of books I have read on multiples (links are to Amazon where I’m an affiliate). I tried to keep my descriptions brief. If you want further information on any of these books, feel free to email me! I’ll continue updating this list as I read more.
When You’re Expecting Twins, Triplets, or Quads: Proven Guidelines for a Healthy Multiple Pregnancy, 3rd Edition by Barbara Luke
This was one of the few books available on managing a pregnancy with multiples. I was glad it had tangible advice on what to eat, what to expect with a high risk pregnancy, and what I could do while I was pregnant to reduce the risks associated with a premature birth. Sometimes I felt like the suggestions were unrealistic and therefore daunting. Sadly, there really isn’t anything else out there. Luke is a doctor that runs a multiples pregnancy clinic, so she has excellent credentials and extensive experience. I read the book again post-pregnancy and I now appreciate it more. I think that when I read it while pregnant, I was hormonal and scared and I fixated on her warnings and didn’t hear the positive and hopeful advice it offered. If you find yourself doing the same, try and recognize your feelings (which are normal and expected!) and try and focus on and notice the positive message in there too. There is a lot of risk with a multiple pregnancy BUT there is also a LOT of hope. With that in mind, maybe you’ll see the positive messages better than I did.
Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Twins: A Step-by-Step Program for Sleep-Training Your Multiples by Marc Weissbluth M.D.
This was my go-to sleep book and I successfully sleep trained the triplets when they were very young largely because of this book. I highly recommend it. I still read it now that we are transitioning from two naps to one.
Preemies: The Essential Guide for Parents of Premature Babies by Dana Wechsler Linden, Emma Trenti Paroli and Mia Wechlser Doron, M.D.
In contrast to Luke’s sometimes intimidating warnings, this book was refreshingly positive. We referenced it daily during the NICU stay. You can easily find information on anything you may be going through after a premature birth. It was easy to understand and again, most importantly- very positive while still being realistic about scary health situations.
Twin Set: Moms of Multiples Share Survive and Thrive Secrets by Christina Boyle
I found this book sometimes simplistic and sometimes patronizing. For example, it tells dads that if they are going to go hang out with the guys after a hiatus due to the demands of caring for twins, be sure to give mom a heads well in advance and not from the bar itself. If you can look past stuff like that, the book does have some good advice about quandaries such as bathing multiples, nursing, sleep strategies, and nursing/feeding. I skimmed a few other books on caring for multiples and found this was probably the most helpful.
Multiples Illuminated: A Collection of Stories And Advice From Parents of Twins, Triplets and More by Megan Woolsey and Alison Lee.
This book just recently came out. I enjoyed it, but more so as a means of connecting with other moms of multiples rather than a helpful pregnancy tip book. There are a few tips sprinkled in the book but I’m a stickler for detail and I always want more. Still, there was some lovely writing and some interesting stories and I’m glad I bought it.
I Sleep At Red Lights: A True Story of Life After Triplets by Bruce Stockler
This was a lighthearted book about a father and his life after having triplets plus a toddler. It was fun to read about life from a father’s perspective. His story about going out in public with the triplets was especially funny and very relatable. It was also nice that his story goes beyond the first year of the triplets’ life and shows how life changes as they get older. Stockler follows the usual narrative that life is incredibly hard with newborn triplets. He probably goes to the extreme for a comic effect, but I would have been discouraged and daunted by his stories while I was pregnant. As a result, I recommend waiting to read this until after your babies are born. The book provides no advice but a lot of entertainment and solidarity with fellow triplet parents, which can be validating after the babies are a little older.
This Lovely Life by Vicki Forman
This was a beautifully written, incredibly heart-wrenching but uplifting story. I really was moved by this book and honestly feel my life was enriched by it. It is about a mom who gives birth to 23-week-old twins. I would NOT read this while pregnant with multiples. I read it a year after my triplets were born, and it really helped articulate some feelings that I couldn’t put into words myself. One of my favorite lines from the book is: “The truth is that this was something over which I had no control and the question is not why but what. What am I going to do with this? What am I going to make of it? I’ve been given an opportunity: to look at fear, forgive myself, learn how to love (myself, others, my son, no matter how imperfect he may be). To practice detachment and patience… It’s what I do in the face of this experience that matters. Do I find ways to go on, or do I stop?” This line is the reason I am working on this blog.
Here are a few other books in my to-read pile:
What about you? Do you have a book on multiples you’ve liked or are curious about?